"What just happened? It was meant to be forever, or so we thought. We were together for 5 years before we were married. We thought of everything. Everyone always said that we were made for each other. But now, after 11 years of marriage, it is over."
There is no need to point the finger at each other, it just did not work out. You are now in a position of confusion, loneliness, and embarrassment. What do you do now?
Look for things to do that have lots of people around. Working out is great for the body and it is a great place to network to meet new people. Walking in the neighborhood allows you to meet new people in your community.
Adding a hobby to your life can be phenomenal. There are so many hobbies to consider. Pottery, golf, reading, salsa, kickboxing, painting, making jewelry, coaching a pee wee league, volunteering, and so much more.
Go back to school and finish your degree. If you have completed your degree, consider obtaining another. There are also opportunities to teach classes as well. There are mentoring programs such as Boys and Girls Club of America. This program are always looking for new people that are able to make a commitment to helping others. This should give you an overall feeling of well being.
Friends are always a great way to fill the void that you might be feeling in your life. There are new movies that come out each week. Dining out with friends is always fun, too. Museums and Art Galleries are fun and add culture to your life. You can also find a local church to attend, and maybe even join a committee at the church.
Make sure that you surround yourself with positive people. Whatever you decide to do, just remember that life goes on. No time to lay around and let life pass you by.
Conceptually, you have a really cool blog topic. This would have been a great post to conect to support groups--so that not only are people staying busy, but they're getting professional support throughout the huge life change (like churches do spiritually).
ReplyDeleteI was a bit confused with the "person switching" early on. You start of saying "we," but then you move to "you." I couldn't tell if part of this was based on personal experience or not. Consider streamlining.
I wonder: what do you mean by opportunities to teach classes? Can you elaborate just a bit?
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Point taken. I will do a little editing! Thanks.
ReplyDeleteKeeping yourself busy is probably the best thing anyone can do when your going through a rough time. Sitting around and dwelling on the past or what could have been doesnt help any; it just seems to make things worse. I think that going to the gym, working out, meeting new people and hanging out with old friends is the best remedy or any type of heartache. Its so funny how you dont realize how much there is to do out there when your spending all your time with one person but once you do get out there and start to do new things you start to see that life isnt all that bad on your own! You can make it being happy with or without anyone.
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